Memories

Memories are what keep us going at times. They can bring a smile to our faces and remind us of all kinds of things both good and bad. We all know how to deal with good memories and we all like to remember good things. Yet it is the bad memories that we have real trouble with. Some of us will remember Bad things and just go on with life. While some of us can not move past bad memories for many reasons. Imagine if you will horrific things that have happened to some of us and all the feelings that come along with those feelings. For some of us it is the feelings that are so had to deal with. I encountered a young lady today that was feeling so bad about herself and at the same time so lonely that she just did not want to feel anymore! So she self-injured. As the blood appeared so did the feelings! Luckily the wounds were not so deep so she was not in any life threatening danger.
Trauma cuts both ways, excuse the pun as none is intended, it affects the ones that self-harm as surely as it affects the ones who attempt to see them through these difficult times. Once again we come to treating others with dignity and respect. If we stop them do we really stop them or do we teach them to no longer talk to us when they are feeling unsafe or overwhelmed with emotions because we feel uncomfortable with their coping skills. Albeit coping skills that really are not working to keep the SAFE.