OK, so how do you motivate someone who does not want to be motivated?
Do you threaten them?
Do you beg them?
Do you consequence them?
What?
Imagine what life must be like when you have nothing to look forward to or feel wanted or loved by anyone or anything. Imagine what it must feel like when everyone you interact with is paid to do so! Try and imagine that all of your coping skills are nothing more than ineffective behaviors and that those behaviors are the only way you have to communicate.
How many of us can watch the behavior without responding with a behavior? Discover what caused the behavior and you stand a very good chance of ending the behavior.
Treat others with dignity and respect even when they are not treating you in such a manner! Become a positive role model and show others by your actions not only your words.
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What is most striking (and sad) is this realization that the individuals we are trying to help are cognizant of the fact that we are indeed paid to listen to them. One can hope that they also understand that while we are paid to listen and look after them, we choose, and are not paid, to actually CARE about them. And I would hope that this interest in their success, this caring, is made evident to them when we emphasize respect rather than coercion and force in our daily interactions.
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